Friday 22 November 2013

Mid Life Crisis

Jeremy is going through a bit of a mid-life crises right now.  He is fixated on guitars.  He wants to buy a nice one and learn how to really play, not just kind of play like he does now.  

"It's less expensive and safer than a Ferrari and/or girlfriend.  Go for it," I said.

"You know, I went through a mid life crisis at your age," I said, remember I am about six years older. 

"What did you do?" he asked cluelessly, as if he wasn't a part of my life back then.

"I had a baby!"  

"How's that working for you?" 

"GREAT!  I haven't had a second to think of myself since."

I think he's going to stick with the guitar.  It is a lot less expensive than another child!

Wednesday 26 June 2013

The Miracle Food

     "Pizza! Pizza! Pizza!" 
     My brother and I pumped our arms up in a victory dance.      
     "We are having pizza tonight!" 
     "Get the plates!  Paper Towels, we need paper towels.  Don't forget the Coke!"
     Dad would walk in the back door of our house with the world's best pizza, grease soaking through the white paper tented cover.
     "Dad, where's the pizza from?" 
     Like we had to ask.  Dad only went to one place, but we liked to hear him say the name.
     "I-tal-yen Village."
     "Dad, it is Italian, not I-tal-yen."
     "I don't care.  Yew want to eat?" 
     And of course we did.  The pizza was just the best thing in the world to our mouths.  It wasn't one of those deep dish Chicago pizzas that tasted more like a lasagna forced into a pie crust.  This pizza was from Italian Village.  It had a paper thin, crispy crust, with a charcoal tasting burn or two on the bottom.  The tomato sauce was sweet, the mozzarella lightly browned, and the Italian sausage filled with wonderfully exotic spices like caraway seeds.  We always got Italian sausage, not the perfectly round kind that looked like pepperoni, or the thick slabs that looked like a Jimmy Dean breakfast speciality.  These were oddly shaped that appeared homemade.  The pizza was cut into squares, not like a pie.  I preferred the ends.  The smell of sweet tomato sauce, toasted cheese, and lightly fried Italian sausage would fill the entire house, lingering until the morning.  A surprise pizza was always the next best thing to a trip to Disney World. 
     If we were lucky, it would just be my immediate family.  But a lot of time we would have our piggy cousins over.  Little Jimmy, who wasn't so little, would take a piece, lick it, then take another piece until an adult noticed and made him stop. 
     "Little Jimmy, what the HELL are ya doin'?  You act like you don't have the sense the good Lord gave a turnip." 
     Little Jimmy would smile, knowing that he at least got enough pizza to satisfy his hunger even if the rest of us would do without.  There was no getting another pizza once this one was gone.  Italian Village didn't deliver, and the adults were already too busy eating and drinking their Miller Lite to care. 
     Pizza night always had two accompaniments, Coke and salt.  We'd drink the Coke, with the ice cubes put in first, so that the liquid would just ease on up around the cubes instead of making them float.  We would cover the pizza with salt to the point of making it  burn the roof our mouths.  We used plain old Morton's Salt, with the blue label picturing the little girl in the yellow dress, carrying her umbrella pouring out the salt as the rain poured. 
     Salt was a big deal in our diet.  Mom used it in everything she cooked, and we all added it to everything we ate.  We put salt not only on pizza, but also on on apples, watermelons, beans -- everything.  Dad wasn't much into sweets.  I can hardly remember him eating a dessert, but no one ever tried to take away his salt. 
     All my relatives were this way about salt.  I only realized when I had friends over that something wasn't right.
     "Ick!  My tongue is burning!" my friends would say as they gulped red Kool-Aid to get rid of the taste. 
     "I know, my mom is a terrible cook."
     "It just taste like salt."
     I knew mother couldn't cook, but I didn't think it was a salt issue.  It thought it was more of a "I hate this damn cooking, and I never want to do it again" issue.  I heard these words every day as mom destroyed another meal.  Mom could eat anything that wasn't nailed down, but Lord help us if she actually had to do more than open a can of Campbell's Soup. 
     My father said that if food was salty, you knew it was good.  Not good, in the fancy restaurant kind of way, but good as in not sour, spoiled, rotten, or carrying some disease that could give you the runs that could lead to dehydration that could lead to death.  Salty equalled safe.  If only that were true, they could have salted the water so that his sister Imogene, and many of his cousins, wouldn't have had to die of typhoid.

Friday 14 June 2013

The Duece and a Quarter

     When I was a child, my favorite activity in the world was riding in my dad's car.  Dad's car was not the family car.  Dad's car was his car.  It was new with a glossy coat of paint and that new car smell.  When the smell wore off, it was time for a new car.  My brother and I just couldn't go in my dad's car.  It had to be a special occasion.  The special occasion came once a year for our cross country road trips from Chicago to LA to visit my Great Aunt Alice.  Of all the cars in my childhood, my favorite was dad's 1969, Buick Electra 225, or the Deuce and a Quarter as he called it.  She was avocado green, with a black landau top, and black vinyl seats which could scorch our legs in summer.  She seemed as long as our house.  I loved every inch of her. 

     Dad had all the upgrades that were offered, including headrests which were new in 1969.  But even better was the below the dash 8-track tape deck my father installed on his own.  The player hung below the dash on brackets.  We had to be very careful if we were playing in the front seat not to scrap ourselves on any of the sharp metal corners.  The player had four buttons by which we could forward a quarter of the tape at one time.  There was no rewind button.  If we wanted to hear our favorite song again, we had to wait for at least a quarter of the tape to play then push the button to forward to our song.  The tape would take a few seconds making a whirring noise as it moved into position.  My dad had all the greats artists of the time, such as Johnny Cash singing "Ring of Fire", Merle Haggard's "Okie from Muskogee", and even Elvis' "Suspicious Minds" for my mother.  However, the best song in my three-year old opinion was "The Unicorn Song", by the Irish Rovers, who were Canadian.  Dad would pop in his day glo orange mix-tape that he worked hours on featuring the family's favorite songs.  When "The Unicorn Song" came on, my little brother and I would hold onto the headrests and dance standing in the back seat singing at the top of our little lungs,

    "You'll see green alligators and long-necked geese 
    Some humpty backed camels and some chimpanzees 
    Some cats and rats and elephants, but sure as you're born 
    You're never gonna see no unicorns"

     Words and music Shel Silverstein.  (Note the same Shel Silverstein of "Where the Sidewalk Ends.)

     Some of the happiest moments of my childhood were spent dancing in the back seat of that boat of a car while driving across county.

Monday 10 June 2013

Water Play

Yesterday, we went to Carl Schurz Park.  It was a lovely, sunny day in the mid-70's.  The sprinklers were on and all was right with the world. 

Until I sat down. 

No sooner had I started reading my email on the sideline of the water play area, did I see a very tall girl crying to her mom.  The mom then stormed over to KZ.  I saw her pointing and talking down at KZ, all while her much-taller-and-probably-much-older-than-KZ daughter shot KZ with her water gun.  The mom then came by me.

"Sorry, but she was spitting at my daughter, and we cannot have spitting at the park," she said. 

I just looked at this woman.  We are in the water play area.  KZ just turned 5.  KZ was much smaller, and probably younger, than her daughter.  And the girl was shooting KZ with the water gun in the first place.  Since KZ didn't have a water gun, she did the next best logical thing of filling her mouth with water and spitting at the girl.  I was honestly very proud of KZ's ingenuity. 

"My daughter is 4 (so I fibbed a bit).   It's a water park for kids,"  I said to the mother.

What could I say?  This woman had a bully for a daughter. But truly, the mother was a bully, herself. 

When I was a kid, my mother would have never dreamed of fighting my play ground battles.  She would have said something like the following:

"So, did you knock them down?  I bet they wouldn't bother you again if you did." 

or

"Solve it yourself and get out of my hair.  I got dinner to make." 

When KZ came over to me, I said very gently, "You know that girl you were spitting at?" 

She was sad, as if she knew she were in trouble.

"Yes," she answered. 

"You did the right thing by standing up to that bully.  If she ever does it to you again, you go right back and spit at her as hard as you want." 

KZ just glowed. 

"Really?" 

"Yes, honey.  You will never be any bully's target.  I don't want you to bully anyone, but don't you ever take it either." 

I gave her a big hug and kiss and sent her on her way.  I noticed that the bully girl kept on squirting other kids with her gun, but not KZ. 

But I wonder what this Tiger Mom really thought she was doing.  She had three kids there.  I'm sure she runs to her childrens' schools whenever someone sneezes in their general direction.  But what was she going to do when they were in college, or God forbid, got a bad review at work?  Did she think she was helping them by fighting their battles now?  How were they going to learn the self-confidence to trust their own decisions?

I sometimes feel, and felt yesterday, that I should have jumped in and taken that woman on head-to-head.  But really, what would that have looked like?  Two grown women fighting in the middle of the water play area at Carl Schurz Park?  Not something I would have wanted to star in on YouTube.

I pray that KZ knows I have her back, even if I'm not standing right behind her at all times. 

Tuesday 21 May 2013

Best Friends Forever

     I see two girls, laughing, giggling.  They are inseparable. 

     They wake up groggy in the morning, neither a fan of the sunrise.  They watch cartoons while drinking their milk.  When forced, they dress for the day, but neither wants to leave the warmth of the house. 

     The day's activities take place.  Tumbling class, haircuts, trips to the bakery for fresh cookies shaped like puppies or bunnies.  They eat their lunches, watch more cartoons, and only after being chastised for watching too much TV do they go off to paint, or color, or read a well worn copy of Curious George. 
    
     They play tag, duck-duck-goose, and hide and seek.  When one is too well hidden the other starts crying because she is scared her best friend in the world is lost.  But then she is found.  They laugh and start the game all over again.   

     When Mommy wants to watch the news, the girls go to the computer.  One is teaching the other the latest games.  At bed time, teeth are brushed, pajamas are put on, and more Curious George books are read.  Lights are out at 8:00 pm, but they giggle until well past 9:00, sometimes as late as 10:00.

     When they must part, they hug each other and cry.  They beg Mommy to let them stay longer.  When it is clear they must part, they beg Mommy to let them play together soon.  Tears stream down their faces as they wave goodbye until the car is out-of-sight.

     They are the best of friends, these two girls.  No bond will ever break the love between them, except the cruel bond of time.  One is four, the other seventy-two.  Angel and Grandma, best friends forever.

Thursday 25 April 2013

Boston is Forever

I took KZ to the extremely crowded John Jay Park after school at 3:00 pm on Monday, April 15.  At 3:14 pm, my iPhone started buzzing with text messages. 

- R u ok?
- Where r u?
- R u in Boston or NYC?

At first, I was touched that so many of my friends thought that I was still fast enough to qualify for the Boston Marathon.  I qualified for it four times, and ran it three.  Each time was one of the best days of my life next to KZ's birth and my wedding to Jeremy. 

- Did u hear about the bombs/gas explosions at the finish line?
- Photos of injured & bloody sidewalk online.  No sure facts.

The only sure thing I knew at that point was that I had to get KZ out of a crowded park in New York City.  My second thought was the safety of all my friends running.

KZ didn't want to leave the park.

She wanted more time to play.  She wanted ice cream.  She wanted to walk home, not run.  I pulled her by the hand down York Avenue as fast as I could towards our apartment. 

"Mommy's friends may be hurt.  We have to go home to see if they are ok."

No one else on the street seemed upset.  I was trembling so hard I could hardly stay upright.  What was going on?  Bombs, or a gas explosion, at the finish?  I was trying to do the math.  When exactly would my friends have started the race?  What wave where they in? What time did the explosions happen?  What about all my friends who live in Boston and may have been cheering at the finish?  I just needed to get home and turn on the TV.

"Can I watch PBS," KZ asked as we walked in the door.
"Um, no.  Play on the computer."

I knew that would keep her occupied as I watched the TV.

The headline banner on ABC read, "Terror at the Boston Marathon".

Terror at the Boston Marathon ... These were not words that went together.  Boston Marathon and "qualifier", or "winners", or "finishers", but not "terror", or later "victims". 

Boston is the Olympics for the common person.  This is the race that every runner dreams of and for which every person in Boston comes out to cheer.  This was MY marathon.  My friends were there running with their small children cheering them on.  I sat there frozen watching the news.  No one knew anything at that point except that there were two confirmed dead and multiple serious injuries.  I did everything I could not to cry in front of KZ.  She's four.  She's happy.  She was cheering for me the day before as I ran a very crowded half marathon in Central Park.  How could something like this be happening? 

Later, that night, after she went to bed, I lost it.  I sat in the floor of my kitchen sobbing ... for the little children who were dead or forever maimed, for the families, literally blown apart, for the lost of innocence of running freely.  I was crying for how close some of my friends came to the explosions.  Two were in the finish line and saw it happen.  One past the explosions just after they happened and saw everything.  She then had to go home and explain as best she could to her eight year old son. 

As I sat there on the kitchen floor, I felt a soft little hand on my shoulder. 

"Mommy, I just want you to be happy." 

I hugged and kissed her, dried my tears, and walked her back to bed. 

I first ran Boston in 1999.  That year, the theme was Boston is Forever.  The world may have changed drastically since then, but Boston still is Forever.


Monday 8 April 2013

The Gaynor School

     "How are you?"  asked Juliana, the Associate Director of Admissions at the Gaynor School.
     "Fine thank you.  And you?"  I responded.
     "Did you have a nice weekend?" She asked.
     "So far," I said.
     It was Monday morning and we were on the phone.  This woman was not my best friend.  She wasn't even my friend.  She didn't care about my weekend no more than I cared about hers.  The elephant on the phone was what she was going to tell me concerning KZ's application and play date interview. 
     KZ had her play date at the Gaynor School on the previous Thursday morning.  As she met with the director of the Early Education Center and one of the co-founders of the fifty year old school, and one other little girl, I was given a tour.  It was one of the most perfect schools I had seen, and I felt as if I had seen every school in New York City by that point.  The Gaynor School had just opened a new 50,000 square-foot building, in addition to the older building built in 2006 with 37,000 square-feet, where the Early Childhood Center would be located.  The stairs were designed especially for smaller children.  The floors were a special sound absorbing material.  The indoor lighting coupled with the natural lighting was soft and warm.  Each room had a special surround sound speaker system, so if the teacher turned her back to write on the smart board, the children would still hear a crisp clear voice.  The class size was ten children to two teachers who had masters in special education.  Occupational therapy, speech therapy, reading specialists, and math specials worked with children throughout the day so that when the school days was done, the kids could go home and play like everyone else.  The school was a special education school for average to above average children with speech delays.  This school was heaven ... heaven with a line a mile long of little children looking for a spot.  Specifically, approximately 500 children for 7 spots.  Would KZ get in?  It was perfect for her, but that didn't mean anything. 
     It has been a year-long journey to this school.  A year ago, we didn't even know that KZ was deaf.  Thirteen private school rejections later, we were terrified that KZ was going to get lost in the public school system.  Would she have honestly been lost?  I didn't know.  I did know that I would have worked day and night to get her the best services possible within and outside of the Department of Education's system. 
     "I hope the news I have to tell you will be good news for you," said Juliana.  "We would like to offer KZ a spot in our 2013-2014 year."
     "Yes, yes, oh definitely yes,"  I started to cry.
     "If you want to take some time and talk to your husband about it,"
     "No, really.  We've talked.  We'll take it.  This has been such a long process, but we truly feel that KZ will be in the best possible place at Gaynor.  Thank you."
     I hung up the phone crying tears of joy for the end of a very long journey into the school system ...  a school system journey which was just beginning.

Wednesday 13 March 2013

Great Day!

Today is a great day. The world's Catholics have a new Pope, and I saw the first Mister Softie truck of the year!

Thursday 7 March 2013

KZ-isms

KZ was having her speech session on Tuesday night.  The therapist asked ...

"Mommy is not home.  The kids are at Grandmas.  Daddy is very tired.  Who cleaned the house?"

KZ answered, "The cleaning lady." 

That's my girl!

Thursday 21 February 2013

Decision Day

Wednesday, February 6, 2013

     "I wanted you to hear this from me first.  KZ did not get into any schools." 
     This came from the Director of KZ's preschool.  Two days later, the school decision letters were to be sent.  As I sat there, not surprised, but numb, she continued. 
     "They just don't feel that KZ is ready for kindergarten."
     "What does that even mean?" my husband asked.
     "She seemed a bit 'young' in her play date interview."
     "She is four.  What do they want her to do?" I asked.
     "She needs to walk in, raise her hand and say, 'Here I am.  What do you want to do first?  Here's how I can contribute.'"
     Again, I just sat there.  I don't know any adult who can just walk into a room full of strangers and do that, let alone a four year old.
     "Kids actually do that?" I asked.
     "Oh yes, and that is what they are looking for.  Now KZ is young.  Most of the kids are almost a year older than she is," the Director said.
     And that was true.  The cutoff date for public school is based on the calendar year.  KZ has a May birthday, so she would be right in the middle, age-wise.  However, the cutoff date for private school is May 31st.  Her May birthday makes her one of the youngest kids in the class.  And it showed.  Play date after play date, I saw it.  Kids sitting there looking as if they could quote Kant.  KZ could quote Elmo. 
    "The schools would like KZ to spend a year or two somewhere else, then have you apply later.  They really did love your family," the Director said.
     But all of this about her being too 'young' really came down to something they were not saying.  KZ had been deaf and was speech delayed.  No one wanted to take a chance on her until her speech was closer to perfect.  When KZ took her ERBs, the LSATs of private kindergarten in New York City, she scored a ninety-seven out of ninety-nine in non-verbal, and a fifty-three in verbal.  Fifty is suppose to be average.  I was thrilled to learn that the little deaf girl was "average" verbally after fewer than six months of full hearing.  Within minutes of the report coming out, I learned fifty-three was average and acceptable, say in Oklahoma, but not in New York City.  Her score needed to be in the nineties.  The schools saw this big discrepancy in verbal and non-verbal numbers as a red flag signalling that she may have had a learning disability.  As soon as we got the scores, we were advised to get a neuro psych evaluation done.  The eval as it was called, would tell if KZ had any issues, and if so, what to do about them. 
     We were off to meet with the doctor. 
     She was a lovely woman, whom KZ took to immediately.  They worked together for two full days, then the doctor observed KZ in school, met with everyone who ever worked with KZ from speech therapists to past teachers, and had an hour long meeting with my husband and me.  When it was done, we were presented with a report.  A report that we received a few hours after being told that KZ would not be getting into any schools.
     "I'm glad you are doing this now.  There are a few issues we can address and correct so that they will not be a problem later.  The good thing, there is nothing diagnostically wrong with KZ.  Everything is language based and stems from her hearing loss.  With the right support, she'll be on track within months," the doctor told us. 
     "We learned this morning that we did not get any school offers."
     "I'm not surprised.  The schools don't like to take a chance.  They don't like to ruin their stats.  Have you heard of the Stephan Gaynor School?" she said.
     "Yes, a few friends have sent their children there,"  I said.
    "It's a great place.  It's for average to above average intelligence children who have language based issues.  It would be perfect for her.  I don't think she'll need to go there more than a year or two.  It's something to look into."
     "What are some of the things we should be doing to help her now?" my
husband asked.
     "Well, her right brain skills are off the charts.  She is amazing, and I do mean amazing at math.  Her piano playing is advanced for her age, and she can do complex puzzles faster than I can give them to her.  Don't even give her these types of things any longer.  Read to her, talk to her, work with her on spelling.  These are the things that will get her scores up," the doctor said.
     My husband and I were both engineers.  We had spent our careers working with math and science.  When KZ was a tiny girl, we started working with math.  Letters, please, everyone knew their ABCs, but math was where I heard all the angst.  Math was our focus.  It was something that came easily to us.  Words and talking were not a priority.  The one thing I valued most was quiet time.  After a long day, I didn't want to hear anything, except the sound of my pencil scratching out a Sudoku puzzle. 
     Dinner that Wednesday consisted of cupcakes and scotch.

Thursday, February 7, 2013
     I spent the day explaining to everyone who called or emailed wishing us good luck, what had happened.

Friday, February 8, 2013
     The emails came out.  The first one was from Dalton and arrived at 4:20 am in my inbox.  I couldn't even open it.  I didn't want to start my morning that way.  Then Marymount's letter arrived at approximately 8:00 am.
     "The admissions committee at Marymount School has completed the challenging task of selecting Kindergarten students for the 2013-2014 school year. In this competitive environment, when the number of qualified applicants
far exceeds the number of available spots, we find ourselves having to wait list students who we would love to see at Marymount School. Such is the case with Kaylia."
     WHAT?  Did I read that correctly?  KZ was wait listed at our first choice school!  I began dancing and laughing. 
     "Mommy, what are you doing?" KZ asked me. 
     "Jeremy, Jeremy, we were wait listed at Marymount!" I shouted as I ran to his home office to tell him.
     "What?  Wait listed?  Yippee!" my husband said.
     "Mommy and Daddy, why are you so happy?" KZ asked.
     "Because we love you so much, sweetheart."
     We got two more surprises that day.  We were also wait listed for Trevor and Hewitt. 
     My first phone call was to the neuro psych doctor.
     "Do you think that KZ can be successful at any of these three schools if we get an offer?" I asked.
     I wanted the truth.  I wanted above all else for my daughter to be successful and love school.  I did not want her to be frustrated and end up hating school altogether because we pushed her too hard.
     "Trevor and Hewitt have excellent reading specialists.  I'm not familiar with Marymount.  But yes, I do think, with the right support, she will be successful at any of these schools if she starts there in Kindergarten next fall."
     Now, we wait.

Monday 28 January 2013

ID, Please

In the past, I got carded for beer.   In the present, I get carded for children's Sudafed. 
I had heard that people got carded for Sudafed, but I was a little surprised, and unprepared, when I went to pick up something for KZ's cough.  After speaking with the pharmacist, he told me that Sudafed was what she needed, but that I needed an ID.  I had just come back from running, with only my business card, a credit card, and $20 in cash on me. 
"Will my business card and credit card work?"  I asked.
 "No, I need a state issued ID.  I have to scan the bar code," he said.
 "Ok, I'll be back," I said.
 I returned about thirty minutes later, presented my ID and watched while he scanned it and entered all types of information into the computer.  I wondered to myself if bars actually go through such a process to ID people before they enter. 
 Then I started thinking about the numbers.  Meth labs are the reason why Sudafed is locked up.  People would buy it by the case, use simple chemistry to break out the meth, then make a bundle selling it.  But, how many people die from meth each year? It must have been a lot for such a public outcry to force Sudafed behind a locked counter.  Then I thought how many die from car accidents, which may or may not be caused by a drunk driver?  How many die from guns?  
I decided to do a little research.  Mind you, my research consisted of Google, so is not scientific, but I had to know.
 According to what I could find on meth, the last year there were records on the subject was 1998.  The number was 500 people.  I did see a few other sources that said 1,000 people, but nothing was exact.  
 Car accidents were the first leading cause of accidental death in the country, followed by gun violence.  According to a Forbes article I read, 
 http://www.forbes.com/sites/robwaters/2012/07/24/gun-violence-the-public-health-issue-politicians-want-to-ignore/
"gun violence is a public health issue, and a big one. In the 10 years from 2000 through 2009, more than 298,000 people died from gunshots in the U.S., about 30,000 people a year. If you exclude natural causes of death and consider only deaths caused by injury, it is the second-leading cause of death over that time span; only car accidents (417,000) killed more people. (These numbers come from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.)"      
 So I ask you who go to clubs, do you have to present your ID, have it scanned, and the bouncer enter information on the computer, before you are allowed in?  One would think this would make sense with an average of 30,000 people dying in car accidents a year?  And those of you who buy guns, I know at gun shows, they don't even do a back ground check.  How much information do you have to give to buy a gun?
 I truly feel something is beyond screwed up in our country when a person has to go through more to prevent her daughter from coughing, than a drunk driver has to do before getting into a car, or crazy person has to do before buying a gun.  Now, what is a mother to do?  I'm not certain, but I do want to make a change.  Not necessarily to stop Sudafed from being locked up, but to make it harder to drink and drive, or shoot and kill.  

 
 
 

Friday 25 January 2013

A Few Funny KZ-isms

Last week, KZ and I were with one of her friends.  The girls were running down the sidewalk on Central Park South playing Red Light/Green Light.  The girls, both 4, stopped to look at a man dressed as the Statue of Liberty.  I know these guys want money, and can get kind of nasty if you don't give it to them.

"Girls, let's not talk to the Statue of Liberty," I said.
 
KZ just rolled her eyes.

"Mom that is not the Statue of Liberty.  That is a man pretending to be the Statue of Liberty," she said. 

They then continued with their game of Red Light/Green Light. 

I guess they told me.

______


It's been cold here in New York City -- Chicago cold.  The temps have been in the low teens with wind chills sub zero.  I wanted her to wear her coat, boats, hat, scarf, and mittens.  She did not. 

"KZ, please put on your mittens," I said, while negotiating with her to put then on.

"Mommy, it is not mittens, it is MIT-TINS. Make sure you say the T's and the final S,"  she said.

I just started cracking up.  Soon she is going to be correcting my pronunciation of everything.

Speech therapy is paying off.

______


Every now and then KZ still has a night time accident.  I needed to wash her sheets the other day.  While I was putting the sheets in the laundry, she asked me why.

"You wet the bed, Honey.  I need to wash the sheets."

"I didn't wet the bed," she said.

"Oh, really, then who did?"

She thought about it for a minute.

"Jake."

"Really, Jake, not Kaycee?"

Jake is our male Shih Tzu and Kaycee is our female Shih Tzu.

"Mommy, Kaycee has a bad knee.  She couldn't have climbed the ladder up to my bunk bed.  It had to be Jake,"

I loved the logic.

______


Friday 11 January 2013

A New World Preschool

I found out today that KZ's school now has an armed guard at the entrance.  I'm not sure what I think about this.  In one sense, I have a sense of safety.  In another, I don't like having a gun in a preschool environment. 

KZ's school is located in a church, but not any old church.  All day it offers services to the community in the form of AA meetings to soup kitchens.  You name it, they do it.  They even do things that I didn't know had a name ... like over eaters anonymous for teenagers.  I'm sure there is a demographic, but I didn't realize that large of one on the Upper East Side.  From day one, I was a bit skeptical of who could walk into her school because I was skeptical of who could walk into the church. Sorry, but I am talking about a place where I leave my four-year old all day.  I can be skeptical.

But after the Sandy Hook Massacre, I went from skeptical to the point of panic attacks when I dropped her off. 

I don't think that the average person going into that church will have a weapon of mass destruction.  But, if someone who wanted to do a copy cat entered the school, the students and staff wouldn't stand a chance.  Now we have a guard, checking all of our school issued IDs, with a gun at the entrance.   I pray that that he stays very bored for the next six months.  

And if not, that he is a good shot.

Monday 7 January 2013

Happy Birthday to Me

This morning, the first thing Jeremy said to me was "Happy Birthday" and gave me a big hug and kiss.  That would have been really nice, except, today is not my birthday. 

For those of you who care, it is tomorrow, but I will celebrate until February 8 just in case anyone is confused or late. 

I love my birthday and I love to celebrate my birthday.  However, this has been a bit of a challenge my entire life.  Note, I was born in Chicago, in the dead of winter, exactly two weeks after Christmas.  My mom claims it was the coldest day of the year in Chicago.  When I looked that up via our internet gurus, it turned out that the coldest day of 1966 was January 29, with a low temperature of -19°F.  Mom wasn't that far off.  And considering she was in labor with her first child, I'm betting it felt a lot colder than it actually was that day.  She was later elated to find that she had given birth to me on Elvis's birthday.  Much later, I was more excited to realize I shared it with David Bowie and  Stephan Hawking.  

Since the weather in Chicago usually was terribly cold and snowy, I didn't have a lot of birthday parties.  Most people really didn't want to bring their kids out in the nasty weather, and mom wasn't excited about having a house full of kids in our tiny home.  As I got older, we didn't even discuss the option of a party.  I did like to do things like go out to dinner, the movies, and get a gift or two.  But I would then hear things like, 

"But we just bought you all those Christmas presents!"  or

"You celebrate your birthday like a Russian wedding.  It just goes on for days and days!"

How my mom knew the details of a Russian wedding I'll never know.  But I did know that I envied the kids with September birthdays.  They got parties and presents.  

When I was pregnant with KZ, some wise person told me, 

"It's all about you now, but once the baby is born, it is all about her.  People won't even remember your birthday."

And true to form, my first birthday after having KZ, no one remembered -- not Jeremy, not my parents, not even one email.  Jeremy and I were in New York City, looking for apartments.  We had been told days earlier that we needed to move to New York from London.  KZ was with my parents in Florida.  I got up the morning of my birthday, had breakfast with Jeremy in New York, then took a flight down to Florida.  While having dinner with my parents in a local pizza place, it came on the TV news that today would have been Elvis's 74th birthday.  My parents just stopped eating and went silent.  My dad then said, "Hey, how about we pay for the pizza today for your birthday."  

Ok, dad, how about.  

Jeremy only remembered two days later when I asked him if he had forgotten anything lately.  It took a bit of work, like telling him what the date was.  He tried to make a few lame excuses, but once he got it, he said, "Sorry, I just forgot."  

Since that birthday, he's hit the date, but just cannot seem to get my age correct.  For some reason, he keeps thinking I'm a year older than I am. 

I guess that is why I look so good for my age in his eyes. 

Thursday 3 January 2013

Knock Knock

My little New Yorker just told me her first knock knock joke. 

KZ:  "Knock Knock"

Me:  "Who's there?"

KZ:  "Harriet"

ME:  "Harriet who?"

KZ:  "Harriett it up, I got things to do!"
 


Tuesday 1 January 2013

New Year, New Runners

I went for a perfect eight mile run this morning.  Ok, perfect in the sense that it is January 1.  It was cloudy, a bit chilly (in the 30's), and a bit windy, but all things considered, no ice or snow or gale force winds.  I was healthy and I was happy. 

I expected Central Park to be quieter at 9 am than it was.  I saw plenty of happy dogs chasing balls, happy tourists reading maps, and happy runners doing what they loved best.  What I was surprised to see, and shouldn't have been I guess, was the disproportionally large number of new runners.  Since I was on the outer six mile path, there weren't as many.  But when I passed the Reservoir, or the Jacqueline Onassis Reservoir to those who are not familiar with Central Park, it was so crowded, I didn't know how people were actually moving.  The Reservoir's path distance is approximately one and a half miles, offering beautiful views of the city's skyline.  It's perfect for a new runner.   I actually thought a lot of people would be sleeping off their New Year's Eve celebrations, and start their New Year's Resolutions on the weekend, or next week Monday.  But no, there they were. 

I've been running for approximately twenty eight years, consistently.  I wish all these new runners only the best and I hope to see them on the path in six months. 

I know I'll be there.